Relationship : My Son is dating a Woman twice as old as him
My Son 21-year-old son is seeing a woman who is nearly 40 – her birthday is next month. I found out through my daughter, so I confronted him about it and he admitted it, saying that they’re in love and he plans to move in with her in the next couple of months.
He said he didn’t want to tell me because he knew I’d be upset.
He only left uni in the summer, is working in his first proper job and not earning much money. He has his whole life ahead of him.
I’m pretty easygoing and can accept age gaps in relationships, but this is nearly 20 years. He only left uni in the summer and is working in his first proper job and not earning much money. He has his whole life ahead of him, so why would he settle for someone who’s at such a different stage of life and who may even have left it too late to have kids?
If she did want to start a family, it would have to be soon and then my son would have the responsibilities of parenthood while all his friends were out enjoying themselves.
My husband is convinced it’ll fizzle out naturally and thinks I need to be calmer about the whole thing, but I’m not sure I can! If they do move in together I’m going to have to meet her, and God knows how that’ll go. I’m 46, so only a few years older than she is, and I can’t imagine what I’d have in common with a boy my son’s age.